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Laura Horton-Ludwig

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What’s the best resolution you’ve ever made? Here’s mine…

At last week’s Reflect & Connect gathering, our conversation on resolutions got me thinking about the best resolution I ever made.

It was very simple: to look up at the sky more often.

Just that.

It happened about 25 years ago. At the time, I was feeling pretty lost. I was nearly done with a master’s degree program in classical singing—a big, brave thing I’d plunged into with all my heart.

And it wasn’t working out.

I loved singing. When I’d begun the program, I thought I’d found the meaning of my life—my vocation, that one beautiful, pure thing I was meant to be doing in this world.

But soon it became clear: I just wasn’t good enough to make a go of it professionally. My heart was sad and tangled up in shame, disappointment, and confusion. Who was I if I wasn’t a professional musician? What was I supposed to do now?

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When you’re grieving during the holidays

When you’re grieving during the holidays, you might feel out of place, out of step with the rest of the world.

But believe me, countless others are right there with you. And it’s OK for you to honor where your heart is right now.

At the holiday stress workshop I led last week, we discovered that almost everyone there was dealing with grief in some way, mourning family members who had died, or grappling with the serious illness of a loved one, or carrying some other tender weight on their heart.

Grief is part of our lives, especially in this season with all the memories of holidays gone by. How could it be otherwise?

And yet, there’s a sense in our culture that grief during the holidays is somehow inappropriate, a downer that’s incompatible with the stereotypes of holiday cheer and happy twinkly lights. So countless grieving souls end up feeling isolated and alone.

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When you’re overwhelmed with tasks, these two questions can help lighten the load

Is it just me, or is your plate overflowing with too many things to do?

I’ve talked with so many clients lately who are feeling overwhelmed with the sheer number of things they need to get done by the end of the year. And some days I feel overwhelmed too!

But let me offer two short & simple questions to ask yourself that may just help you find some lightness in your to-do list.

Question 1: What’s the easiest way to do this?

This is a question my beloved former coach Larry Peers helped me come up with years ago, at a moment when I felt like I was drowning in half-completed projects and emails that kept piling up.

In particular, there was one project that had me really flustered.

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From my heart to yours: Thank you!

Hello everyone—

Today I want to say thank you.

Thank you so much for your trust, whether you’ve been reading my posts for a while now or you’re brand-new to this site.

In this hectic world, it means so much to me that you’re open to engaging with me in this ongoing conversation about spirituality and living in a way that brings you joy.

To everyone I’ve had the privilege to work with, I want you to know that you inspire me every day. It is an incredible honor to witness your dreams and struggles, your insights and accomplishments, your courage and grace, your strength, humor, and resilience. Thank you for being my teachers.

And to each and every one of you reading this today, thank you for all the ways you show up and bless this world simply by being yourself.

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Are you really allowed to arrange your life in a way that works for you?

Do you ever feel like somehow you don’t have the right to arrange your life in a way that really works for you? Let me tell you right now: You do. You absolutely do.
And yet, if you’re like many sensitive or intuitive people, you may be feeling a lot of pressure to contort yourself into conforming with other people’s expectations of what you should be doing.
Recently, I’ve worked with a number of clients to explore some changes they wanted to make in their life. With each of these brilliant, wise people, two things were clear right away:
1) They each knew how they wanted things to be. I mean, they were all absolutely clear on what they would change to make their life better, more sustainable, more productive, and more fun. Some of these changes involved re-setting expectations with family members or workmates, but none of them were drastic or draconian.
2) However: None of them believed they could actually pull it off. Why? Because they feared that these changes, which they wanted to make for their own well-being, would disappoint people they cared about. Now, they weren’t worried that the people around them would be angry! Just worrying that they might be disappointing someone close to them was almost enough to stop them from even trying.
Does that sound familiar to you?

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Do you ever get angry at the source of the universe?

It’s been a hard few days on planet Earth. So much suffering. So many people, just trying to live their lives, in the wrong place at the wrong time, caught up in violence and death. So many beings of all kinds, seeking safety and finding none.
Sometimes I get so angry about it all. Why haven’t we figured out how to be better to one another, after so many millennia, so many generations? What is wrong with people?!
But when I really sit with it, I realize this:
The one I’m really angry with is the One who created this universe in the first place.
Call it God/dess, Spirit, Mystery, or any of the thousands of names for the unthinkable, unimaginable creative force beyond everything—that which brought forth this material universe, and this little planet, and we embodied beings.
That’s who I’m angry at. Because, seriously: Who thought it was a good idea to create this planet and set it up so that we’re all in these vulnerable, fragile bodies that hurt and break down and die?

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What if it isn’t all in your head?

A while back, a client shared a spiritual experience they’d had that was very meaningful to them. But, they asked, “What if it was all in my head?”
I can relate. Especially if you grew up in a secular home, as I did, it is so easy to dismiss even the most powerful spiritual experiences as meaningless, unreliable, a mere trick of the mind.
And yet, what if those experiences are not meaningless?
What if they’re the very opposite of unreliable?

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Feeling burned out? Here’s a way to get un-stuck. (Hint: You are not the problem!)

Does this sound like you, or anyone you know?
Work used to light you up on the inside. It was fun and challenging. You were excited about using your gifts to help people—to make a real difference!
But somewhere along the way, that changed.
These days, you’re feeling exhausted, wrung out, burned out. It’s especially disturbing to realize that, some days, you can’t seem to care any more about the people you’re there to serve. Where your heart used to overflow with tenderness and compassion, now you feel numb.
You’re still pretty good at going through the motions. But inside, the spark is gone. And that’s scary. You know it’s not good for you, or the people you serve.
Maybe you dream about quitting. But you need the money. You feel trapped.
And then there’s the shame. Other people seem to be able to handle it just fine—why can’t you? You worry that maybe it’s your fault, like the problem here is you.
But you are not the problem.

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A message for someone—maybe you?  

I do a lot of shamanic journeying as part of my personal spiritual practice. I’ve known most of my compassionate helping spirits for quite a few years now, and sometimes they nudge me to come check in with them if they have something particular to say. Like someone saying a friendly, “Hey, there!” in my brain.
So the other day, I got a pretty strong nudge from one of my spirit friends to pull out my tarot and oracle decks and pull some cards, because she had a message for the folks I work with.
I’m not an expert tarot reader by any means. But this compassionate helping spirit likes working with cards. She often tells me to go pull a card or two as a sort of shorthand for a message she has for me. Pull the card, listen to what she says it means, look up the traditional meaning and see what lands.
So that’s what we did. And the message she had this time was about what she wanted you all to know. Or rather, I don’t know if it’ll resonate with everyone who reads this, but maybe it will for you. In a nutshell, it was about reclaiming your power, re-grounding in the midst of change, and rediscovering the spiritual abundance that is always with you.
So here you go. I made a quick video so you could see the decks and the cards….

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