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How a really good question can help you make a much-needed change

It’s amazing, the power a really good question has to help you see yourself and your options so much more clearly.  At one of the Reflect & Connect gatherings I lead, it happened to me! The theme was joy, and we were working with one of my favorite poems: “God Says Yes to Me,” by Kaylin Haught. Here it is:   I …

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A Buddhist thought-experiment to help you turn anger into compassion

Can we talk about anger today?  I mean, specifically, what to do when you are really, really angry with someone. Not just for the first 5 minutes or 5 hours after the thing happened to set you off, but for days on end. And you can feel that your anger is starting to mess you up inside, only you can’t seem to let it …

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Young girl blowing bubbles

A quick practice to help you feel more joy this week (or whenever you need it)

Today I’d like to share with you a quick practice to help you feel more joy this week. But first, a quick story. A while back, I was in the middle of a particularly busy season, with a million things to do. And it was taking a toll on my spirits. I was run-down, weary, and so tired, I coudn’t …

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The rattles I use in my clearing practice

How to clear your energy, in less than a minute each day

For anyone who’s interested in learning how to clear your energy, here’s the clearing practice I use each day to release any energy I accidentally picked up that doesn’t belong to me. I hope it will inspire you to create your own clearing practice that works for you.  (You might also want to learn how to create a …

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Shielding yourself energetically

A simple practice to shield yourself energetically when you’re feeling vulnerable

During yesterday’s solar eclipse here in Williamsburg, VA, the moon covered about 80% of the sun at the peak. Fortunately, a friend had given me an extra pair of eclipse glasses, so I was able to watch it safely. This got me thinking about all sorts of tools we can use for protection, including the subtle energetic tools …

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Spring daffodil

Here’s a spring spiritual practice: ask a flower for advice

Here in southern Virginia, it’s all about buds and blooming and growing green things. The daffodils have been blooming for weeks now; the forsythia joined in about a week ago, and the redbuds are out now too. So in honor of spring, here’s a spiritual practice I invite you to try. It’s very simple: That’s it! I tried this …

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My dog resting as I work

When you’re working so hard, you actually forget to rest (my dog does not have this problem!)

When you’re doing any kind of creative work– whether it’s writing a novel or painting a picture,  or solving complicated technical problems,  or raising children,  or working hard on your own personal growth and development, or anything else that stretches your mind and spirit and body– it’s so important to take breaks along the way …

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A stick on the pavement

What if you want to change, but you’re not quite ready?

For the past couple of weeks, I’ve been noticing a funny little stick on the pavement on my daily walking route. See the photo above: doesn’t it look like a person setting out on a walk? With a little swing in their step, even!

Only, day after day, that little stick has sat on the pavement and has not budged, through all kinds of weather, sun and wind and heavy rain and sun again. That stick person is stuck!

Now, this is not a problem for the stick. It’s just hanging out and being a stick.

But here’s the thing: that little stick person is also reminding me of myself when I’m trying to get moving on some kind of change I know would be good for me, but I just feel stuck.

Like the time a few years back, when I suspected I needed to cut back on the amount of caffeine I was drinking. I was dealing with really bad insomnia, and I’d tried just about everything else. But I really, really didn’t want to give up my afternoon cup of black tea!

Or the time I knew I needed to speak up about something bugging me in a close relationship. It felt scary to speak honestly about what was bugging me, because I wasn’t sure we’d be able to resolve it. So I put off the conversation for weeks.

In each case, I was pretty frustrated and down on myself for not making faster progress. Or any progress, really.

How about you–does that sound familiar?

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